On Holiday Stress

We live longer than our forefathers; but we suffer more from a thousand artificial anxieties and cares. They fatigued only the muscles, we exhaust the finer strength of the nerves.
~ Edward George Bulwer-Lytton

No one can get inner peace by pouncing on it.
~ Harry Emerson Fosdick

There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.
~ Calvin and Hobbes

The mark of a successful man is one that has spent an entire day on the bank of a river without feeling guilty about it.
~ Anonymous

Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save.
~ Will Rogers

Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.
~ Ovid

Ray Gone Away

He sang to himself.
In front of 10,000 people, he sang to himself.

Stage lights reddish-orange. Words muffled by his beard.
My friend said, he is shy and doesn’t like to see the audience.

The sitar-like dobro alternately squeaked and bellowed
hallowed violin music.
Drums backed up his rhythm guitar strumming,
the guitar sitting high on his button-down shirt,
like a mantle on a statue of a musician

who might have been in performance for an audience.
But he was not. The audience is irrelevant.
A performer without performing, he speaks a Mantra.
He says, Gone Away. From Me.

Q: What are your favorite ways of being creative?

Here are Christine Kane’s 21 favorite ways to be more creative. I like many of them: the 20-minute walk, the go-see-a-gallery, go-hear-live-music. My favorite suggestion of hers is “read poetry aloud” (I found Christine’s blog through this post on the Life Coaches blog).

Q: What are your favorite ways to be creative?

* Sleep in on the weekends – best ideas around 10am on a lazy wakeup
* Get in front of an easel with paint
* Walk on the beach with a notebook
* Go hiking by myself
* Go to a music concert, symphony or chamber
* Read beautiful language
* Also, read Haruki Murakami and Isaac Bashives Singer

…And your ways? Would love to hear what you think! Great weekend to you!

Not-Perfect Quotes

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing.
~ Harriet Braiker

Once you accept the fact that you’re not perfect, then you develop some confidence.
~ Rosalynn Carter

Sometimes… when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing.
~ Ally McBeal TV show

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything,
That’s how the light gets in.
~ Leonard Cohen’s “Anthem” lyrics

Posted on 12-15-06 for Thurs, 12-14-06.

Q: Which is your seesaw balance?

One should see the world, and see himself as a scale with an equal balance of good and evil. When he does one good deed the scale is tipped to the good – he and the world is saved. When he does one evil deed the scale is tipped to the bad – he and the world is destroyed.
~ Maimonides

People have different axes along which they find balance. Most people feel when they are in balance about many axes in their lives. The above quote is about feeling the moral balance, and leaning in the good direction. People can also feel balance, for example, in these parts of their lives:

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Adventure
  • Alone-time
  • Fun vs. Work

And in each case, people can lean towards the good direction of balance. For example, if you wanted to feel YOUR OWN VERSION OF BALANCE (and I think balance is very personal) in “Fun vs. Work,” then you might resonate well with these words:

Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
~ Robert Fulghum

If you wanted to keep your balance in the physical part of you, you might aim to get to the gym more, to eat more healthy foods. Different people have different needs for balance.

Today’s Question:
In which part of your life do you feel it is most important for you to have balance – and then after that, other things fall into place?

Specifically, your answer might be “stress balance” – when you have enough stress to keep you challenges but not too much so that you go nuts, that may be the optimal stress balance. It might be “alone-time balance,” a good balance between doing things on your won and with friends. Your answer might be “mental balance,” a good balance of being challenged mentally and being calm mentally. It might be “moral balance,” a good balance of making the correct and right decisions in your life.

For me, as long as I do good things physically, and as Maimonides said, “with the scale tipped to the good,” then the other parts of my life fall in line. Which balance is most important for you?!

And let’s end with some very important thoughts on balance! Especially as the temperature is going to be in the 30’s in the Northeast, in the U.S..

The balance of nature is reached when heating the house costs as much as going south for the winter.
~ James H. McGavran

Will Smith on Aristotle

Will Smith is starring in “The Pursuit of Happyness,” and in this article, he says that he read a lot about happiness in preparing for the movie. Will Smith says he liked best what Aristotle said about happiness:

“I’ve been reading a lot about what is happiness, and I feel Aristotle had the best idea,” the 38-year-old actor said while seated in the stately wood-paneled McCormick Room atop Tribune Tower. “He broke it down in the Nicomachean Ethics. Like for me it feels directly and inexorably connected to self-esteem.

“So I always explain it as: Think of yourself as two people, and one of them is inside of you, and he’s a scorekeeper. And he keeps score of your idea of the world. … And when you have a conflict with your scorekeeper, that’s unhappiness. Happiness is being completely in sync” — he slapped his palms together — “with your own perception of goodness.”

Agreed.

What’s your motto?

Here are some great mottos from Motto Magazine’s “What’s your motto?” contest:

Pam
“We don’t attract what we want, we attract what we are.” – Anonymous

Peter Gouveia
My motto: “Live your life with passion so your epitaph will read ‘No Regrets.'”

elizabeth
Life is not greener on the other side.
“life is greenest where you water it most”

Stacie
There is no good or bad, just done and not done.
This is to motivate me to get started when I’m frozen with the fear whatever I do won’t be good enough. If I do it, it can’t be bad.

Skip Reardon
1. Actions speak louder than words.
2. We are what we repeatedly do.
3. Attitude is everything.

Ming Wong
I have two mottoes actually,one of which is attributed to Confucius: Find work which you enjoy, then you wouldn’t have to work a day in your life!
The other one: Everything’s relative. Truly.

And I’ll end today’s quotes with this delightful one that made me smile just to read it!

David R.
Allow room for good things to run wild.

Two Ways to Forget About a Guy

Classisa is 12 years old. She has been dating Geordie for about a week. In this week, dating has meant that they’ve sat next to each other at lunch, and on the weekend, they went to the movies and held hands.

Clarissa got dropped off by her mom at her friend Jamie’s house. After fumbling with the doorknob since she was holding two sweaters and two nail polish containers in her hands and didn’t have a bag with her, she went in and upstairs to Jamie’s hot-pink-color room. Jamie’s mom always left the house door open for the neighbors to come in at any time.

Jamie was on her bed reading some Asimov (a hand-me-down book from her brother) with Modest Mouse blasting on her computer. Clarissa dropped her small armload onto the end of the bed, and said, dramatically, “That’s it. I want it to be over.” Jamie blew a watermelon-smelling bubble, turned over, closed her book, and sat up. “Why?” she asked slowly, wanting to draw out the details from Clarissa patiently and slowly.

“I think he likes Liz,” answered Clarissa, looking towards the hardwood floor. Continue reading “Two Ways to Forget About a Guy”